On Giving Advice


I have a few friends who are really good at giving advice. It’s a gift really. A gift I wish that I possessed.

Someone I love called today and was obviously upset. I sympathized. I reassured. And I took a stab at giving some advice. I have no idea if it was the right thing or the wrong thing. I just outlined some actions to take that  I thought might help, even though I knew it would be hard. And I wanted so much for what I said and the ideas I suggested to make her feel better. But it didn’t.

We all get to points in our lives when we need advice. When we’ve tapped out all of our inner resources and want to step away from ourselves and let someone else take over. We want someone to tell us what to do or the next step to take or how to respond in certain situations. There’s entire professions built around this need we have as humans.

But the truth is, no one can fight the fight for you, no matter how tired you are.

The best advice givers are the ones who offer a new supply of ammunition and who give you a renewed strength and spirit to keep fighting the good fight. Some coach from the sidelines, and others join in the fight with you.

Advice giving may not be my gift. But for those I love, I get in the trenches anyway. Sometimes all I can do is listen. Sometimes all I really have to offer is letting those in need know I love them and I am there for them no matter what. I just wish it were enough.

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  1. LeeWee says:

    I am loving this everyday blog! 😉


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