In my last post, I mentioned how I wanted 2011 to be a year of productivity for me. Well, it turns out it’s difficult to be productive when one spends all day with a toddler who incessantly pleads, “Play with me, Mommy!”

No, no, not making excuses here. You see, this is where 2011 is different. I don’t feel guilty that I haven’t accomplished much in the last week or so while I’ve been mostly snowed in with my mom and my daughter. Sure, I would have loved to use the time to begin any number of various projects that I have planned, but instead I’ve been doing the following:

  • Playing “dolly house” (which I will admit I don’t really enjoy– it kills my knees to sit on the hardwood floor and it mostly consists of me playing and Charlie watching or shouting, “No!” when she does not like the direction I’m taking the play dolly house narrative)
  • Reminding my Muffin to go pee on the potty
  • Watching Disney movies (turns out Little Mermaid II isn’t half bad for a direct-to-video sequel  — and my standards here are pretty high as the first Little Mermaid is my favorite Disney movie — can’t beat the music!)
  • Watching Scooby Doo (of course)
  • Reminding my Muffin to go pee on the potty
  • Building houses and traps out of foam blocks (see Scooby Doo above)
  • Playing princess dress up (or mostly helping Muffin dress up while trying to explain to her that the princess clothes aren’t exactly my size)
  • Reminding my Muffin to go pee on the potty
  • Coloring

Well, you get the idea.

Snow, and now ice and rain have been hitting the Jersey and PA pretty hard, and today is the first day since last Tuesday that I’ve actually gotten my daughter to preschool.  And you know I was doing the happy dance when I got home. Six hours to myself. Woo hoo!

Six hours! What’s a girl to do?

Why, be productive, of course. Take a step. Any step that moves me forward on the list of things I’ve been meaning to do.  So I’m choosing to write.

But what about these last few days? The days I did not do anything to move ahead. The days I let my resolutions linger. I didn’t write. I didn’t look for a job. I didn’t read. Instead, I watched movies and played and cuddled and negotiated with my toddler. I suppose I could beat myself up for that. Or I could say I was being a mom. And there’s certainly productivity in that.

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  1. Helene says:

    Kellerooo…. when Melissa was pregnant with James, she asked me to offer ONE piece of advice, the most important thing I’d learned about being someone’s mother. And it was this: take every opportunity you can to get down on the floor and PLAY with your kids.Translated: Leave the dirty dishes, don’t make time for your friends, stay off the phone other than nap time, etc. And she does. And YOU do. And I think that is MORE than great. I’ve second guessed myself and felt guilty about a lot of things I did, but the one thing I feel bad about NOT doing, is exactly what you did this past week. You got down on those creaky knees on a hard floor and played with Charlie. The job search waited, didn’t it? She won’t, she’ll continue to grow and change and develop. And by getting in there and playing house? You’ll be a part of it, not just a bystander!!!! You did GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!


  2. LeeWee says:

    There is productivity is mom-daughter bonding. Probably the most productive and important thing you will every do! xoxoxoxo


  3. Irene Landon says:

    Yea .. I’ve seen her try to fit you into her Princess dresses – nope, they don’t fit.
    But, she loved doing it and you are really a good mom. She adores you (as do I). Enjoy her…life is so fleeting. xxxooo


  4. Laurie says:

    so wishes she had a husband who would not complain about what doesn’t get done while I spend time playing with the kids. I, like Helene, have tremendous guilt that I have only been able to take my almost-8-year-old to the park a handful of times, etc. Maybe if I can become better organized…don’t know. 2 kids, 2 dogs, a house, a business and little to no help – I’m grateful for a shower some days.
    Good for you Kelly!!!! enjoy & relish taking the opportunity to just “be” with your Muffin.


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